Are feminist really trying to ban the word “bossy”? Apparently the first amendment doesn’t matter anymore because feelings trump everything else.
It’s not a literal ban, oh my god. That’s just the alliterative title.
It’s about changing the way we frame assertiveness in girls and the discussion surrounding how girls are taught to be passive from a young age and how that negatively impacts us.
Um we should be teaching girls not to be so thin skinned. Being called bossy is not that bad. I’ve been called much worst things. Girls from a young age should be taught to not care what others say about them because in the end it doesn’t matter unless you let it bother you.
No. We don’t teach girls to “deal with” being bullied. You don’t teach girls to “put up with” being mistreated. You don’t fix problems by telling girls not to be bothered by things that research shows has real effects on them.
Jesus, you’re talking about CHILDREN that are being put down and often insulted by their peers and ADULTS, and there is research that proves this can have lasting effects on them.
And your solution is “just tell them to shut up and put up with it”? That is SO gross.
"You shouldn’t be bothered by this abuse" is NOT HELPFUL ADVICE to people who are being abused. You stop the abuse from happening.
Plus: Have you actually looked at the campaign? Much of it is geared towards teaching girls that being assertive is a GOOD thing and not to believe people who aim to make them feel bad about themselves.
Also saying you’ve been called “much worse” isn’t that great of an argument. Being called bossy is where it starts for most girls. They can’t exactly call it the “ban bitch” or “cancel cunt” campaign when it’s aimed at young girls
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